Hollywood Is In Denial 'Carefree Sex' Results In Nothing But Misery And An Early Death

By: Tia Johnson 0 Comments   3/13/2013

Hollywood is no fool regarding monetary profit. Sex sells, and they know it.  Their programming reflects these values. The show "Friends" was a popular one among my peers in high school.

To be honest, I was impressed with its witty comedy. But one thing I loathed: its attitude toward sex. 

In this show and others, sex is no more safeguarded than is a sweet peck on the cheek. It's shared as commonly and in as celebratory of a fashion as pecan pie.

The way Hollywood portrays it, sex is good, but it's not good enough to protect.

Numerous shows on television show the glamor of having an active, carefree sex life, but they rarely show the cost of treating it so cheaply. A report by the Family Research Council titled, "The City that never sleeps… alone" revealed the dark side of carefree sex in New York City. The statistics are truly a nightmare.

"The only thing higher than the Empire State Building may be New York City's sexually transmitted disease rate," said the report. A striking 68 percent of the Bronx neighborhoods were in the highest percentiles of persons having multiple STDs. Altogether, approximately 60 zip codes in New York were in the top 20 percent for multiple STDs.

These statistics are costly. "According to the CDC, a single case of HIV costs $400,000 to treat over a lifetime," the report said. "But instead of discouraging promiscuity, the U.S. is pouring millions of dollars into STD treatments-- all because the government doesn't want to confront people about the dangers of premarital sex."

Authorities in New York are not only failing to communicate the facts regarding casual sex. They actually seem to be encouraging it

New York City has demonstrated the disastrous impact of non-abstinence sexual education. They've won the prize for distributing more condoms and facilitating more abortions than most anywhere in the country.

And in 2012, the city launched a new program called CATCH: Connecting Adolescents To Comprehensive Healthcare, which allowed high-schoolers to opt for regular birth control injections, the morningfter pill, and condoms at their school without parental notification. Yikes!

This image contrasts sharply with God's desires. In scripture, our bodies are gifts of great value, not to be handled cheaply. And no wonder, for 1 Corinthians 6 describes our bodies as God's temple.

1 Thessalonians 4 offers direct admonishment regarding sex: 3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, ... 7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8 Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God...

No wonder sexual sins against the body are seen so seriously. God built our bodies to function as they do. He considers the gift of sex to be of great value. Greater than a pecan pie? You bet. So much so that sex is designed to be saved for marriage, not passed around. Good, safe sex is worth that wait.

Our children have not started school yet and so far are clueless as to the act of sex. But we've tried to explain those "special parts" to our children with the Biblical perspective above. Certain parts of our bodies are not to be mishandled or made fun of. Why? Because God made them special for someday when they get married.

When our daughter reaches dating age, I'd like to take the approach exemplified in a story by Sarah Kistler in James Dobson's book, "Bringing Up Girls." In this story, called "The Charm Bracelet," a girl is given a charm bracelet for her 16th birthday with one rule: each time she crosses an intimate marker with a boy, she has to give him the assigned charm. The granite piece was for the first time she held a boy's hand. The pink quartz represented her first kiss.

The green emerald was for her first boyfriend, and the pearl was for the first time she said, "I love you" to a boy. There were a few more gems, all of which had to be given away to the boy whom she gave that first piece of affection to. In the story, the girl goes on to befriend a host of boys, and each time she's tempted to demonstrate her feelings, she thinks, "But I don't want to lose my pearl…" Finally, she meets a man who respects her physical and emotional boundaries, and they marry. Instead of losing her charms, she's able to give the entire bracelet to her husband-- a treasure they plan to pass on to their own daughter someday.

Wow. What a way to pass on the truth that our bodies and our affections are precious, not to be given away casually, but to be saved appropriately.

Those in New York may say they value their bodies, but their actions show otherwise. I feel sorry for them. A day may come when the weight of their actions creates an emotional avalanche, and then what can be done? God's redemption can be done. No one is too far gone that almighty, all-powerful, all-knowing God can't forgive and offer newness. 

In the meantime, there's a few steps we can take to discourage the trends we see in Hollywood. First, stop giving our ratings to dirty shows. Second, join the group 1 Million Moms. This group has mobilized moms to help take dirty shows off the air, and they've been effective.

Hollywood certainly isn't to blame for our sin, but it is at blame for making light of our sin. Look at the statistics. Look at scripture. Don't fall for Hollywood's fairytale.  


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