Honoring My Step Father William Veahman

By: Ryan Atkins 0 Comments   6/23/2011

Fathers day has come and gone, yet the day following Fathers day I was left reflecting upon my step-father, William Veahman who died May 28, 2010.

The death of Veahman was initially difficult to handle as he was becoming the man God had created him to be. He was forming a great bond with me, his daughter, granddaughter, his sisters and his wife.

The last day he and I saw one another, November 2009, Veahman made one of my favorite meals (roast beef and mashed potatoes) to treat me before him and my mother took me to the airport. Veahman turned to me while we were eating and apologized that he did not live a life that directed me towards Jesus Christ.

At the moment, I didn’t realize the significance of this moment. Knowing myself I’m fairly certain I forgave him and told him I loved him.

However, as time has went by since that moment and his death I now understand the magnitude of that moment Veahman and I shared. Here was a man who admitted he was wrong and despite the fact that I barely lived with him, nor met him until my 20’s, he still apologized for not teaching me to be a man of Christ.

In my opinion he didn’t need to apologize because I was not a child underneath his tutelage, yet he was willing to admit when he was wrong and changed. In the book of James we’re told to “... not be hearers of the word only, but also doers.” Veahman didn’t just speak about his change he lived it.  I know during the last year of his life he and my mom had the best time of their marriage. His relationships we’re changing and becoming healthy again.

Veahman lived out the change that happens when one becomes born again and proclaims Jesus Christ as Lord of their life.

What Veahman didn’t understand was an example of Christ by transforming his life into something to be proud of. He also made the most of his time that final year of his life, he lived, he went on vacations and he had a great time with his wife, my mother. Veahman also made sure I knew I was loved and cared for, we didn’t talk a lot, neither of us needed to, yet we both knew we loved one another.

If I had the opportunity to speak to Veahman on Father’s day I would have said, “Bill, I love you. You may have doubted the impact you had on myself and others in leading the household into the direction of Christ. However, by being willing to apologize and truly change the way you were living your life you represented what it means to be a Christ follower. Thank you.”

None of us know when our time will be up, when our hearts stop ticking, but we need to make the most of the time we have. I urge each person to truly work out any differences they may have with one another, while being sure that those they care for know without a doubt that they are loved and valued.

Happy Fathers Day Bill, your testimony of Christ lives on. 


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