What To Do When The American Dream Becomes A Nightmare

By: Sonia Eizenhoefer 0 Comments   11/10/2012

What is the American dream?  The American dream is to own your own business, buy a house, and become successful. Then you can pursue happiness. Many people have lost their houses in the past several years.

Not only have people lost their homes, but some have had to close their businesses as well.  

To lose your home can cause great devastation to any family, which is part of the American dream.

When this hope is lost, a couple can become devastated and the American dream becomes a nightmare. Who can pull them out of this tragedy? 

Along with those who have lost a home are people who have had to close the doors to their businesses. These people have suffered such great loss and it is probably even more tragic than losing a home, for a person’s livelihood is found in their work.

The current administration isn’t accommodating the American dream of owning your own business. There are too many regulations and laws that are so costly it’s difficult to start and create a successful business. The new health care laws (Obamacare) will cause even more devastation to small businesses.  

Has the American dream become a nightmare?  Where did we go wrong?  Have we gotten too caught up on material things?  What’s really important?  

No matter what happens in a family, hardship and loss shouldn’t destroy it, but instead cause them to become stronger. A Trial tends to build character and causes us to mature. Hard times also give us compassion for others who have had similar experiences. The big question is in our pursuit of happiness and the American dream, did we forget God?  Is He in our plans?  If so, what can we do to restore hope?  If not, How can we get back on track with were God wants us to be?  

Our family has experienced both; the loss of a home we built ourselves and our own construction business. In 2004 we had to move out of the beautiful home we built. It was so hard to go back to renting and moving into an old home. Thankfully it was large with a lot of land and a shop so we easily adjusted.  

Shortly thereafter we had to close our construction business. Tom, my husband also developed bladder cancer and endured many surgeries during this time. It seemed like we were hit with hardship from every side. As I sought the Lord in prayer He showed me to reach out for help in the church, the community, and the government. Everything was provided for.  

We were thankful to have health insurance just in time too (prior to this we were without it for four years). When we could no longer afford to live in this home, the day we were evicted we were offered to have Tom’s mother’s home, a mobile home. She was moving and planned on giving her home to the mobile home park.  Even though it was very humbling to move into a trailer we had peace.  

It is better to live in a shack on the rock than in a castle on sinking sand.

Matthew 7:24-27 Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to be a wise man who built his house on the rock: 25 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: 27 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall (NKJ).  

Through these difficult times we have learned some very valuable lessons. Remaining together is what’s really important and having material things is not. Having peace with your relationships is far more important than where you live or what you drive. Living in peace and knowing your in God’s will is better than trying to live up to the status quo. Trying to fit in with another social class is a waste of time; we need to be about God’s kingdom business and sharing the gospel.  

Could these hard times we have faced be opportune times to share the gospel with those around us who have also been going through similar situations? 

It says in 2 Corinthians 1: 4 who comforts us in all our tribulations that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God (NKJ).

I believe if we allow God to come in and heal us and help us we will have a very strong message of hope to those we come in contact with, both at work and in our neighborhoods. 

God wants us to help set the captives free. 

In Isaiah 61:1 The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me, because the Lord has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound (NKJ).  

With God’s help and restoration we can then share the message of hope to others. As Christians when we suffer financial losses, we know where to turn for help. We can turn to God in prayer!  Then as we stand in faith God has proven He is faithful over and over again. He provides for us according to His riches and glory.  

But the lost don’t know where to turn. Many are depressed and turn to drugs and alcohol. Some end up in counseling and are medicated there. As Christians, we should be the most joyful people around. We should be full of love and hope able to give to others. But if we’re not experiencing victory ourselves our message loses its power.  

God wants us to have His perspective then we can walk in His peace as it says in His word:

Romans 5: 1-4 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 and not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope (NKJ).   

As one who now lives in a mobile home and has to commute to work an hour away. I understand hardship. If we listen to the world we will never be satisfied or content. We need God’s perspective. If we get His view and learn of His ways I believe He has many wonderful things He wants to share with us, we just need to be willing to give it away.  

I am grateful for the Lord who has been there in the hard times!  Aren’t you? Let’s spread the good news! 


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